Designing Your Vision for What You Really Want (Not Just What You Think You “Should” Want) with Bailey Frumen, MSW, LCSW founder of Mindrise

January 17, 2020 4 min read

Designing Your Vision for What You Really Want (Not Just What You Think You “Should” Want) with Bailey Frumen, MSW, LCSW founder of Mindrise

Hey everyone—here we are with the second installment of our EMPOWERMENT 2020 campaign series with K-DEER, happy to be back and this time we are tackling VISION.

In our campaign kick-off, we laid out our game plan and started things off with mastering our mindset and learning how to shift our beliefs from negative to positive.

Let’s talk about vision—cultivating your vision is an essential ingredient to powering up your new year and new decade. Why? Because without vision, our big dreams just fall short. In today’s post, we’ll be talking all about designing your vision for what you really want (not just what you think you “should” want).

OK 2020…let’s do this!!

Bailey seated in an outdoor hammock

Here’s the deal, so often we say we want something—whether it’s the job, the relationship, the house, car, run a 5k, whatever sparks inspiration for you but we fail to achieve it. Why is that?

Why is it that we can get so excited about a big idea but when it comes time to actually making it happen we either chicken-out or fall paralyzed by indecision?

It all comes down to vision.

At the inception, our goals are simply dreams or wishes. In this first stage of inspiration dreams and wishes act as an initial catalyst to giving birth to our goals. Setting our goals and achieving them then give birth to planning and living our life.

But what is the bridge between “someday I will… or someday I want…” to someday becoming our actual reality? You guessed it—vision. Creating a vision of how you want your life to look weaves together dreams, intentions, and reality.

Here’s the caveat: without direction, we can get really overwhelmed when it comes to developing our vision. And everyone knows that overwhelm is kryptonite for the ambitious and driven person. You’ve come too far to shutdown so let’s give you a tool to use that will help you create your vision and exhale overwhelm out of the room.

When it comes to vision, at Mindrise we use a tool called a Vision Map. A Vision Map acts as both your compass and your guide in life, helping you to find your way from where you are now to where you want to be going forward. In a Vision Map we focus on putting together 3 elements that ultimately become your Vision Map.

First, we look at “The Big 6,” these are the 6 most influential areas of your life that help you in creating your vision:

  • Relationships
  • Vocation (career)
  • Financial
  • Spiritual
  • Mental/ Emotional
  • Physical Well-being

When we consider what we want in these six different areas, they help us form a vision for the life we want to create.

For a visual, here’s an example of a Vision Map:

Once this first step is complete, next we attach our desired feeling to the vision. Connecting our feeling to our vision sounds something like this:

“My Spiritual vision is to practice yoga 3 days a week, journal, meditate, and go for a walk in the woods, this will allow me to feel grounded and at peace.”

Quote Text: When we wait to feel how we want to feel, we miss out on enjoying the journey.

When crafting a vision, it’s not enough to declare your desired vision we also need to include your feelings alongside of your vision. Most people live in the paradigm of “I’ll be happy when…” When we wait to feel how we want to feel, we miss out on enjoying the journey.

With that line of thinking, it leads us to run raged toward crossing the finish line of what we thought we wanted without feeling our feelings along the way, we feel too burnout and exhausted to actually enjoy what we worked so hard to achieve. #nofun

Quote Text:  What is your why?

The third and final step in developing your Vision Map is asking ourselves WHY we want what we want. The thing is, it’s not enough to just say you want something—that keeps it in the first stage of a dream or wish. We transition into believing it will become part of our life when we attach our WHY to it.

For example, if your spiritual vision was to practice yoga 3 days a week, journal, meditate, and go for a walk in the woods—why do you want that? Maybe it’s because work is hectic and you want to relieve stress or maybe you need it to connect to your essential self. Your why is whatever you say it is.

We need the WHY. Why makes things sticky. Our why is what allows us to preserve when things get tough, any time you set a goal or create a vision, always attach your why to making it happen.

Next up—it’s time to move our feet on making our 2020 vision of empowerment a reality, we’ll show you exactly how to step into developing a game plan to take action (rather than waiting for some day). Ready for more? Join us at Mindrise for our Fire Your Fears 10 Day Challenge, get started by clicking here.

BIO: Bailey Frumen, MSW, LCSW

Bailey is a groundbreaking psychotherapist, author, speaker, coach and mentor to ambitious leaders and entrepreneurs. She provides the roadmap and the means to travel out of frustration & overwhelm into action & purpose.

Bailey has been named one of the ‘Top 20 life coaches to watch’ by She is the author of Own Your Power: Your Guide to Feeling Powerful, Fearless, and Free. Her work has been published in Huffington Post, Aspire Magazine, Natural Awakenings, Popexpert, Elephant Journal, and on numerous blogs as a guest author.

Bailey is also a featured author in the best-selling anthology, Inspiration for a Woman’s Soul: Opening To Gratitude & Grace through Inspired Living. Through her 1 on 1 Coaching, coach training, live events, and the Mindrise Collective, Bailey directly affects leaders and entrepreneurs and their connection to purpose so that they can take the actions they haven’t been able to before. With over 10 years of service, Bailey cuts through the fog of feeling stuck or overwhelmed and shines her spotlight on your right path. Say hello on Facebook and Instagram!

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